I myself am Demi. Before last year, I havent really felt any sexual attraction for years and years. (7 or more years) . Now I know this Person, and he is known by family to not have any sort of known sex-life. I quite fancy this person. like I have for the past year. We live very far away from each other and this person likes to keep a low footprint on the internet. especially since the nsa scandal , so online communication is limited to a few times a year over voip programme. , and see in person once a (calendar) year. Now to the question, Should I bring up the question if he was ace or demi? I feel he is getting a bit ridiculed for his sex life by some members of his family and therefore may not be wanted to be questioned about it. However whenever I see him I have a great chemistry with him I think, and I could imagine having an ace, relationship with him even. However he might not be wanting a relationship or similar if he thought he had to perform sexually. But if he was maybe ace, and I'd know he was, and he knew that I would be happy with an ace relationship maybe he would be happy to pursue one too? I hope that makes halfway sense.