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Hi,

I myself am Demi. Before last year, I havent really felt any sexual attraction for years and years. (7 or more years) . Now I know this Person, and he is known by family to not have any sort of known sex-life. I quite fancy this person. like I have for the past year. We live very far away from each other and this person likes to keep a low footprint on the internet. especially since the nsa scandal , so online communication is limited to a few times a year over voip programme. , and see in person once a (calendar) year. Now to the question, Should I bring up the question if he was ace or demi? I feel he is getting a bit ridiculed for his sex life by some members of his family and therefore may not be wanted to be questioned about it. However whenever I see him I have a great chemistry with him I think, and I could imagine having an ace, relationship with him even. However he might not be wanting a relationship or similar if he thought he had to perform sexually. But if he was maybe ace, and I'd know he was, and he knew that I would be happy with an ace relationship maybe he would be happy to pursue one too? I hope that makes halfway sense.

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ride_4ever
Nov. 3rd, 2016 11:35 pm (UTC)
That is tricky, yes. Do you have concerns about jeopardizing the current relationship by asking? How is this Person at picking up nonverbal cues? Can you express interest in a way that you think would clue him in to take action if he wants to do so, but can diplomatically keep the relationship as is if that's what he prefers?
imps85
Nov. 3rd, 2016 11:53 pm (UTC)
I do, actually, This person is generally more introvert. If he was picking up nonverbal clues he probably wont tell me. According to a third person(I hadnt told them that I fancied that person but apparently they had picked it up and asked the person about me) he likes me. As mentioned above he is rather private via the internet, and I am afraid he would scale down on his internet use even more so. Whenever we see each other either on skype or in person we get along very well and spend quite a lot of time together.
ride_4ever
Nov. 3rd, 2016 11:56 pm (UTC)
Without actually knowing the two of you, I don't want to be dispensing advice that could cause more harm than good if I misjudged something...but I wanted you to know that you are being heard and considered.
imps85
Nov. 4th, 2016 12:01 am (UTC)
of course thank you. It is always good to consider all sides of possibilities.

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